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Do you think most people would rather be a certain race or are most people happy with the race they are?

16.06.2025 00:36

Do you think most people would rather be a certain race or are most people happy with the race they are?

The best way to go is, as corny as it sounds, to work on yourself as a grounded individual. Meanwhile you can still do so much to your physical appearance.

It's fun to treat yourself anyway. You're a brown Grimace-from-McD-looking individual like me and you want a brighter skin? Go for it. Grab a lotion or pay for something sophisticated, I don't know. Brighter doesn't mean you suddenly possessing the bone structures of Nikolaj Coster-Waldau. Nor should you wish for it. His best quality is probably he's extremely cuddly (mmm…).

I personally only started to fantasize being a different race well into adulthood. It's mostly a cheerful despair of being not “Hollywood pretty.” I mean it does get worse sometimes. Especially when I came about social media. Gurl, sometimes I do genuinely wish I were (suddenly and magically) a hot Albanian-German mix supermodel with effortless beauty and Olympian bone structure, y'know. *sigh* *fanning myself with a piece of eviction paper from my landlord because I haven't paid my full rent*

Do women really cheat more than men?

Um. What were we talking about. Race? Rice? Anyways, go to sleep, my cozy fluffy bitch, I mean friend. And eat your veggies!

The widsom of realizing how amazing it is to be ordinary is beautiful and liberating, but with the strong atmosphere of “what could be/have been” in the world we live in, it's still a fucking work to get your heart around it.

But I'm pretty sure a little kid might have a wish to look like their favorite TV characters and such. You know kids say the darndest things. But I don't know, I'm not a child therapist.

Is it right to visit any shrine or tomb in Islam?

I don't think people think about that until maybe much later in their life. Unless they're getting bullied early on for being a different race in their school years, which I know quite a bunch of people experience and that's horrible and sad.

Like, can we just agree, being …not pretty AND having a sense of humor is a fluke to being. Not everyone can do that. A lot times, you're just wondering why people are so much nicer to the popular kid or that fair skinned friend in your group, while you don't care enough about your own genetic identity to carry and represent that with pageant pride, y'know. The thing is, the popular kids probably don't give a shit either. They have people who maintain their self-esteem for them.

I'm sure there are social or regional aspects to racial identity issues. But it's always developed by external forces like that.

How strict are your parents?

I think we inherently don't give a morsel of thought let alone hatred towards our own racial identity. We really are just trying to survive the beauty standards flaunted by other folks who probably don't mean no harm either when we grew up.

Work out a little and be the cutest version of yourself. No bootcamp program required if don't wanna opt-in. Just do it once a week and reward yourself with protein-packed meals, and nap nap.

Like, there's a different between thinking, when you're watching a TV show or a movie, “I know and I passively accept that I will never be that cool beautiful white actor that I like.” and “I wonder what it's like working as an actor.” (Without the racial concerns.) Y'know.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?